Safety and threats in relationships
Some relationships make us feel safe. For me, mostly, it's people who let me be the way I am. I have nothing more to expect in such interaction. It feels safe and complete. There are some good people, but interacting with them feels like a threat to me. They are mostly those who are constantly criticizing or pointing out areas of my flaws and always trying to fix me and push me for my betterment. Though I am not enjoying their company, may be, they are actually serving me by creating awareness ignorantly , rudely, or may be even caringly. But it still feels draining and heavy. There are two ways of looking at this. Self-help and self compassion lays so much emphasis in boundary setting. On the other hand, the universe has to act through someone to initiate the change in us. Growth loes outside the comfort zone.Change is the basis of evolution. At the same time, we can't always be dragged by everyone who comes into our lives. If we are aware, have acceptance, and ...