This concept of 'space' is the most beautiful thing which I learnt in this journey of life. Every relationship will be beautiful when we apply space in love. When a relationship is genuine space binds the two people, when the relationship is not genuine space separates.
How can space bind ?
Be it marriage or friendship at times we just love or care someone a lot without realizing that we are entering into their boundary. But when we take few days or weeks or months to reflect and observe how a relationship is going, how we treat someone, how the other person is treating us and adjust and fine tune ourselves then we learn to love and yet maintain the space without entering into the other person's boundary.This space in love and friendship will be emotionally liberating for both the people.That is matured love, detached love or love without expectations.
Space in love can prevent hurt feelings, disappointment and heart breaks.So when we are affectionate towards someone we should also give them the space, we should never let affection become a burden on others.
There are different types of affection.
1. Immature burdening affection is one in which the other person demands certain things like attention, priority, time or even affection in return without practicing space or realizing that affection has to be natural, spontaneous, effortless not forced.We can enjoy this affection only if we can effortlessly handle the burden or meet the demands else it becomes stressful.
2. Short term company and affection. Some relationships are good only untill the point of time we are in the same place, then it's like out of sight out of mind.People just move on without making an attempt to keep in touch.
3.The affection between people sharing common interest or ideas is where minds are connected and these relationships enjoyable on short term basis.
4. Elevating or purposeful relationships. Some people may be with us for very short period of time but they act as pointers and guide us in the right direction.Even if we get out of touch with passage of time we may remember them with respect.
5. Some pure souls come into our life and help us unconditionally we may always remember them with gratitude.
6. Some people are good and kind because that is their nature not because they like us. We should know the difference between someone who is good to us and someone who is affectionate towards us and stay emotionally stable.
7. The best friend kind of affection flows naturally, spontaneously, unconditionally, mutually where two persons are connected in all levels where they act as company, have common interest, act as a pointer to each other elevating them in the right direction, help unconditionally and make an attempt to keep in touch forever.
8. In family relationship we are bound with love, affection, duties and responsibilities and give our entire lifetime for the souls who are part of our family.Babuji says family is the training ground for love and sacrifice.Liberation lies in handling it.
9. Above everything what is our relationship with ourselves, which is actually the most important relationship and the purpose of our incarnation. The first thing is Self awareness, then we should have self Acceptance about that which has come to our awareness. Then we should practice Self help through Self motivation to change or improve required aspects of our life. Having consistency in helping ourself is self care or self discipline.We will do all this only when we have self respect.
