Shift your focus

 Well I wasn't running towards something, I knew I was running away from something. Running away from a situation that is a potential threat to my ego.I was running away from it in the fear of not hurting my ego and feeling embarrassed. 

But within me I understood how many times can I run away from it, what i am running away from is not outside me, it is within me.  Its my own fear. A situation is not going to create fear, after all its not going to create anything.  Each of us handle the same situation based on what is within us. So how long can we run away from something which is within us? So let's face it. 

Face the fears, fear of loosing,  fear of judgment,fear of failures, fear of rejection , fear of opposition, fear of alone, fear of opinions.  Understand that these are all external factors which we don't have any control on. So let go of what comes from outside and shift the focus within. Build on your own inner empire. 

Accept yourself, improve yourself, take care of yourself, understand yourself, forgive yourself, heal yourself,  enjoy yourself, believe in yourself, be responsible for yourself and above all love yourself .

Healthy Relationships

Life is a mix of different types of people, some we are drawn towards, some we want to stay away from, some we enjoy with momentarily, some we value, some we are grateful for, some we learn from.

Tough people teach us the value of good people.

The immature people who speak, act, expect, demand without thinking from the other person's perspective teach us the value of matured people who speak the right things, moderately and politely.

The people who manifest anger and hatred teach the value of people who are empathetic and forgiving.

The people who are jealous teach the value of people who are our well-wishers.

The people who are highly critical teach the value of encouraging people. 

The people who try to possess in the name of love and interfere in others freedom teach the value of those who manifest space in love and just let the others be.

Self-centered ,benefit seeking people teach the value of helpful, selfless people who go out of their way to be there for us.

Lazy and irresponsible people teach the value of sacrificing souls who shoulder the responsibility of other people too.

Insensitive people who do not know to handle love teach the value of those who respect and reciprocate.

Despite being good while being there in day-to-day life, people who are like "out of sight out of mind" , teach the value of those who make an attempt to be in our life.

Time spent with good people may become a fond memory when our life takes a different course, we may think of them and even miss them but what is important is to make an attempt to keep in touch. Those who make an attempt to stay in touch are the one's who value us the most and those who have learnt the value of healthy relationships. Keeping in touch means making an attempt to meet, if that is not possible then make a attempt to call or at least a periodic text message.

However good a person is, unless two people make a mutual decision to be there all through a relationship is not going to last long. Anything which is not mutual is not sustainable.  

 There could be misunderstanding, conflict of interest, differences of opinion but some relationships thrive beyond all that. There are some people we may admire or drawn towards but could not get really close, the admiration was just on one or two surface qualities.  There are some people who have been kind because kindness is their nature. Still there is a difference between kindness and closeness. 

Best friends are matured, forgiving, well-wishers, encouraging, selfless, helpful, grateful, reciprocating and above all value us and make an attempt to be in our life irrespective of external factors. Healthy relationships are a combination of mutual admiration, mutual gratitude and mutual reciprocation.

We could never get too busy to keep in touch.  In the book Zen the art of simple living the word busy is defined as "no place in the heart ".

Reflections- April(Part 1)

What flows towards us depends first on our interest(openness), secondly on our handling ability and thirdly on retention ability by making ourselves deserving of what we get. When we digest and handle what comes, we create room for more to flow in.

Staying committed even if the need or benefit is not ours is a high level of respect towards fellow beings and manifestation selflessness. 

Babuji says, "Constantly thinking good for others is Service". A leader is the one who serves others by thinking and acting for other people's welfare, just spontaneously, selflessly. 

Maturity is empathy towards immaturity.

Trusting that the past, present and future is for our own good is acceptance without the idea of acceptance. 

Don't just inform about your blessings to the world, share your blessings with others, that is how you take people along and also create space to attract more when you let it flow. 

We act based on our awareness. But we tend to forget what comes to our awareness and revert back to old methods, if we keep connected to the source (book, mentor, meditation) from which wisdom originates we probably won't forget what we learn.

There are four levels of evolution in the person we are as well as the people we meet: trouble creating person, harmless person, kind person, dependable person.

There is a freedom of choice in manifesting Kindness. The person can choose when to be kind, how much to be kind and to whom to be kind. A person who Continuously manifests kindness becomes dependable or reliable person. Dependable person has been more selfless in choosing to be kind. Most of us are dependable for a small group of family or friends. As the circle expands, it reflects our selflessness. The whole of humanity has unconditional dependency on saint or guru.

Everyone we see outside is a reflection of our inner self. A past self which we can empathize with, a present self which we can connect with or those from whom we take inspiration are our future self.

Fear is the greatest obstacle which we need to overcome. Fear of judgement, fear of rejection, fear of failure. When we learn to grow with criticism, accept rejections, learn from failures and take opinions in a light spirit we have reached a new level of consciousness. 

When we work ahead of time it's the path to progress and success,

When we work for the current situation, it leads to retention and eventually only stagnation,

When we do not work, it will lead to degradation and slowly deterioration.

Our evolution is a journey from selfishness to selflessness.

Trust

 Trust the flow of life.

Trust that everything happens for your highest good.

Trust the past, trust the present,  trust the future.

Trust that the universe is working in your favour.

Trust is contentment, trust is total acceptance, trust is holding on,

Trust is forgiveness, trust is letting go,

Trust is courage, trust is moving on.

Trust is new start,trust is also re start.

Trust the success as utilization of full potential, 

Trust the failure as process of enriching experience,

Trust the blows as a means to expand consciousness,.

Trust the fellow beings,

Trust in God, 

Trust yourself,( the voice within).

"Your heart knows the way, run in that direction "-Rumi

Gita Sara says to trust the past, present and future. Life is all about utilizing our full potential and not be carried away by success and dejected by failures or unexpected blows.

Liberation

Mahabharat is such an interesting epic that covers all aspects of life. It's said that after winning the Kurukshetra war, the Pandavas ruled for eighteen years then during their old age Pandavas along with Draupadi went to Himalayas and they passed away one by one except for Yudishtra, who is said to have entered the heaven while still in body. He was liberated while still in the body. 

Content people (1st liberating quality) are the happy people in the society. 

Calm people (2nd liberating quality) are harmless people in the society.

Compassionate people (3rd liberating quality) are loved by others.

Courageous people (4th liberating quality) are respected by others.

The liberating qualities need not be sequential. Bheema manifested courage but at one stage he fell down, it was said that it was due to his lack of contentment and greed towards food.

Only Yudishtra manifested contentment, Calmness, Compassion, Courage and most importantly clarity. He was stable through all situations of life and lived a life of moderation. Clarity comes only when we are out of illusion of attachment.

There are two sides to each liberating quality. 

Contentment: Satisfaction with whatever we have as well as doing our best.

Calmness: Life is a balance between holding on and letting go. In acceptance peace. Let go but have the will power to hold on to the righteousness.  Adapt but not fully adopt.

Compassion: The ability to appreciate the good and forgive the bad.

Courage: Balance between trusting what is to be and living the now completely even if the trust is broken, we need to move on with the ability to trust all over again.

 Lalaji says "Mental attachment is bondage, detachment is Liberation". This clearly implies that Liberation is not non possession of things, it means that nothing should possess us.

Babuji says "Liberation is like a child's toy. Liberation is the bare minimal which we need to achieve in this lifetime. Fix your goal which should be complete oneness with God, rest not until the ideal is achieved".

Chariji says " The real liberation is freedom from the idea of freedom ". This clearly conveys liberation is not escapism from duties or pain. Excessively seeking freedom is a bondage in itself. Liberation is an attitude of moderation even from liberation itself. 

Daaji says " Be courageous, be loving, be peaceful and less inviting to desires. This is the heartfulness way of life". He speaks about the five C's. The above statement implies that the practice of the first four c's is the heartfulness way of life.  It automatically leads to the fifth C, clarity which liberates us from illusions. 

 Let's go agile, the main goal is complete oneness with God; liberation is a smaller goal on the way.Split liberation into smaller chunks, manifest liberating qualities (Contentment, Calmness, Compassion, Courage, Clarity) in our day-to-day life and keep refining ourselves.