Healthy Relationships

Life is a mix of different types of people, some we are drawn towards, some we want to stay away from, some we enjoy with momentarily, some we value, some we are grateful for, some we learn from.

Tough people teach us the value of good people.

The immature people who speak, act, expect, demand without thinking from the other person's perspective teach us the value of matured people who speak the right things, moderately and politely.

The people who manifest anger and hatred teach the value of people who are empathetic and forgiving.

The people who are jealous teach the value of people who are our well-wishers.

The people who are highly critical teach the value of encouraging people. 

The people who try to possess in the name of love and interfere in others freedom teach the value of those who manifest space in love and just let the others be.

Self-centered ,benefit seeking people teach the value of helpful, selfless people who go out of their way to be there for us.

Lazy and irresponsible people teach the value of sacrificing souls who shoulder the responsibility of other people too.

Insensitive people who do not know to handle love teach the value of those who respect and reciprocate.

Despite being good while being there in day-to-day life, people who are like "out of sight out of mind" , teach the value of those who make an attempt to be in our life.

Time spent with good people may become a fond memory when our life takes a different course, we may think of them and even miss them but what is important is to make an attempt to keep in touch. Those who make an attempt to stay in touch are the one's who value us the most and those who have learnt the value of healthy relationships. Keeping in touch means making an attempt to meet, if that is not possible then make a attempt to call or at least a periodic text message.

However good a person is, unless two people make a mutual decision to be there all through a relationship is not going to last long. Anything which is not mutual is not sustainable.  

 There could be misunderstanding, conflict of interest, differences of opinion but some relationships thrive beyond all that. There are some people we may admire or drawn towards but could not get really close, the admiration was just on one or two surface qualities.  There are some people who have been kind because kindness is their nature. Still there is a difference between kindness and closeness. 

Best friends are matured, forgiving, well-wishers, encouraging, selfless, helpful, grateful, reciprocating and above all value us and make an attempt to be in our life irrespective of external factors. Healthy relationships are a combination of mutual admiration, mutual gratitude and mutual reciprocation.

We could never get too busy to keep in touch.  In the book Zen the art of simple living the word busy is defined as "no place in the heart ".