Tune in to the subtle vibrations

 My guruji revered Chariji says " When we think someone is bad or nasty, even if they are not so, He or She would atleast be nasty with you." It is our thoughts that make them behave like that towards us.

We meet so many people in our day to day lives directly and also grasp so many ideas indirectly( from television, books social media etc ). If possible we can choose 2iseky at times there is no choice. Peace is the bare kinikial we need to maintain for ourselves and people around. 

I was wondering if we really have anything to do with the way the other person treats us?Are we initiating the vibration or responding or reacting to what comes from them? May be we are doing both. 

Sometimes I have experienced that for some reason if a person is rude to us and somehow consciously we forgive with a brotherly love and if that person is sensitive like a magic the very next day they maintain that mutual love, respect and peace. But each soul is in a different state of consciousness and there are people who  may  not give a immediate response to love and peace but still they will tune in with time.

So in any interaction from our side it should be a consciously sending vibrations of love and peace. There could be disappointments or frustrations caused by so but make sure to let go if it the very same day and keep yourself tuned into the subtler vibrations of love and peace.

Forget the bad, be grateful for the present and keep faith in the future.

Love is the bridge between you and everything

We are all born with the ability to love because love is the natural condition of the soul and its the only thing that exists. But as we grow up in this world, we pick up multi various resistance to love from people, events and situations and slowly move from our natural condition of love.

How do we overcome the resistance to love ? When we understand that the joy is in doing something with love, not in the response. 

This love we should put in practice in very mundane things of day to day life.  We love a friend and share good moments together. One day they move to a different place and stop keeping in touch, it hurts and instead of remembering the good moments spent together, we feel offended and we slowly develop resistance to make a good relationship with a new person who will be coming into our life in the future.

Lets take a very simple example , we answer a forum or group and give inputs based on whatever we know but then couple of times there is utter silence when we  ask something,  them slowly we withdraw and become passive observer instead of taking part.We forget that when we answered with enthusiasm and love we were joyful, we respond back to the moments which did not give us joy and make that our new habit.

You share important life events to someone for some reason they did not do so again resistance.You wanted to share because you felt happy doing it why expect the same.

You always remember wishing someone, one point you think they don't wish you back, then you develop resistance to your.own habit which was giving you joy.

Now the other way round, someone likes to do something, that expectation annoys you but you did it half heartedly or just out of compulsion. Try involving love and interest in that situation, what would result is joy, it no longer would seem like compulsion. 

Through small things in day to day life consciously or subconsciously we keep developing resistance to the natural flow of love from our heart, forgetting that the flow of love gives joy, just vibrate in that joy.

Celebration gives joy, celebrate life , yours and also others. Joy attracts grace.

" Love is the bridge between you and everything "- Rumi

" Wherever you are, whatever you do be in love"- Rumi

"Close your eyes, fall in love stay there"-Rumi

Happy Vijayadasami

On this vijayadasami may God bless us to transform the evil qualities within us to good.

Fear to Faith

Anger to Peace

Greed to Contentment

Selfishness to Kindness

Ego to Love

Pride to Humility 

Laziness to Responsibility

Grudges to Forgiveness 

Ignorance to Wisdom

Anxiety to Joy

Our first meeting with Daaji

In December 2018, me and my family visited Kanha Shanthivanam for the first time for middle east seminar. 

The place was just marvelous, a nature's paradise with so many varieties of plants and trees. The facilities which were provided were outstanding.

It was a coincidence that during our stay at Kanha ashram,  it was our younger son's first birthday. I wanted him to meet Daaji in person .Our elder son was named by Chariji in Chennai and our younger son was named by Daaji in email.

I had requested the concerned person that we would like to meet the Guru on our sons birthday. To my surprise, while we were at the food court,  I got a call requesting to come to Master's cottage .We hurried up to the cottage. 

Kanha is a big area we had to walk for five to ten minutes to the Master's cottage. As we were heading towards the cottage I felt there was divinity in every single tile on the pavement,in every tree, in every plant in every stone I was feeling the presence of Guruji.Divine presence in both the animate and inanimate.

When we entered the cottage or rather say office of the president,that's the way Daaji calls it, I was taken away by the simplicity of this great person. He was in a very simple room with no big luxuries. He had provided all the facilities to the visitors but He was leading a very simple lifestyle. First thing which I saw in Him was Simplicity.

There were five more people in the His office at that time, other than our family.  The second thing I witnessed about Him was that He was a great listener. Whatever people had to say even if it was a small child, He listened to what other's said with great respect and attention.He was paying attention to minute details.

We interacted with Him for sometime, he gave chocolates to the kids. He asked me to remove my small son's saliva tie, he took scissors from his stationary and cut the small tag. Then he told me " you don't know to cut also ". I was feeling that He was cutting a big bondage from my baggage.

My husband asked Master if he could take a snap with Him, for that master laughed and said " come and dance with me" . Dance inner meaning is spiritual work. 

While others were talking,  I was curious to read what is there in Daaji's heart. That moment ,I saw Daaji inside Daaji's heart.

I was a little confused why I saw His form in His heart instead of seeing His Masters form in His heart.

After sometime we left from there while we were walking back to our room, my heart was singing exactly these words from a movie :

" Naan endra sol inini illai,

Naan enbadae ini ni daan,

Inimelum varam ketka thevai illai".

Meaning: " There is no more I, 

From now on I means you,

There is nothing more to ask for".

The divine essence is the same transferred from one guru to the other in the hierarchy of heartfulness. Just the physical form varies.  I witnessed the same love in Daaji which I saw in  Chariji and today on His birthday I understood why I saw His own form in His heart, self mastery and also because there is no difference between Him and His Guru.May everyone attain that kind of mergence.

 

Walking with Him in love ~Part 2

The part 1 of my spiritual journey titled walking with Him in love , comprising of my experiences under the guidance of my guru Chariji between 2003 to 2009 can be read in this link 

This is a humble summarization of next phase of my spiritual journey from 2010 to 2021 under the guidance of my gurus Chariji and Daaji  .

Well, the first phase of spiritual journey is more about seriously choosing a spiritual way of life from the deeper ,real sense . The next phase phase of the journey which I thought would be a peaceful easy cakewalk turned to be quiet the opposite .This stage was filled with lot of tests, and blessings .

Our consciousness cannot expand unless we undergo different levels of tests ,unless we go through different experiences. Experiences are best teachers, reading and writing are just baby steps. Experiences and situations change us inside out. We may not understand the why of things when we go through them but later point of time we can recognize how much certain events and situations have changed our perspective and attitude towards life .

For many years there was a big uplift in consciousness through tests and more the tests, more the blessings in the form of spiritual condition to be able to handle the tests . Those conditions gave the strength to face the tests . My mind was running more  behind those unique conditions and state than the Guru .

This process was going on deeper and deeper and one fine day I suddenly felt like I was told just go and do your day to day work. I felt like taking a big U turn and coming back to square 1 after 15 years. For a couple of years I felt a little lost and there was dryness in condition, consciousness. Then I learnt that even the spiritual experiences are not eternal. Suddenly I was reminded I am a small girl, catching hold of my Guru's hands and I am just walking with Him in love . This reminder was enough to remove all the dryness and change everything . 

I felt the safest thing in existence is just walking with Him in love . I thought I was the lover and He was the beloved, gradually I saw how the roles interchanged . He is both the lover ,the beloved and the love that flows . He gives me the tests as well as the strength to go through them .Material life changes, spiritual condition and consciousness also changes . The only thing with no rise and fall is just my walk with Him . That which is changeless is eternal . That which is eternal is the Ultimate Reality . 

I have named my blog as towards Ultimate and towards reality, Walking with Him in love is the ultimate Reality I have witnessed in this life . 

It's a eternal journey . Only thing is I wish I always remember that and pray I remember the eternal walk. 

One thing which needs to be revealed is if there is any movement in the walk or if it's all in stillness. Probably the next phase of the journey should reveal that.

Gain strength by connecting within

At times mind is not inward tuned, when fear, doubts anxiety and uncertainty engulfs the mind,life seems to be very tough. Knowingly or unknowingly we may project our thoughts and feelings to the outside world, but who can hp us more than our own self ?

There is no such thing like once and for all. Life is a process of continuous evolution hence tests, learnings, changes, mistakes, corrections etc keeps on repeating continuously.

In a broader sense fear, anxiety, doubts all engulf the mind when we don't live in the NOW.  Though we know how precious it is to live in the NOW, yet we deviate. My close circle and I myself  ask me this question,  sometime back  I might have learnt, realised or written something about overcoming fear, living in the NOW, later point of time I might have forgotten it and need a reminder. At times we may get good insights from around us to pull us back to the normal and at other times only we need to help ourselves.

It's very natural and hence ok to deviate, but what is important is how quickly you pull yourself back to reality. 

Inward connection is the only way to tackle all our challenges. We need to find a way to centre to our inner self,  it could be prayer, meditation, writing, singing, dancing, cooking, driving, gardening, painting, catching up with friends or just a long walk. Whatever is your way of inner connection do it as often as possible. Only when you are connected within you can face all that which is happening around. Life would be simple, and peaceful when you are in constant company with your inner self - your all time best friend.

Acceptance the way to peace

 At times in life unexpected, unplanned situation comes our way leaving us totally lost and heart broken. We may question the why of things, but there are certain things for which we could never get a convincing answer to the conscious mind. How to deal with such situations?

Acceptance is the only solution. Acceptance saves time and saves us from further blows. Resistance only pulls us all the more down. 

What is the concept of time in the eternity of creation? It's all about the time we need to bounce back to a peaceful state of mind. Whatever happens in life, it's upto us to stay at Peace. Peace is the bare minimum we need.

Wise people accept. Acceptance is a wise counselor. Accept and Act.

Revisiting the basic principles for happy life

 Repetitions are required for human mind.

1. Nishkama karma - Do your duty without  expecting results

2. Live in the NOW - Past is dead and future has not yet manifested ,so don't project the past fears into future. What has happened need to happen again. In same way take nothing for granted.

3. Peace is a conscious choice. 

4. Go easy on other people's words and actions, it has more to do with them than with you. So don't carry the heaviness of words with you.Let go then and there.

5. Seek Within. Nothing else is worth seeking.Love lies within, joy lies within, peace lies within because God lies within.

Follow your heart .

solitude is connecting within

After a decade, have spent two full months in my hometown.On the surface level there were few things which I had to re adapt and few things that I enjoyed.

But what about spiritual practice? What about solitude? When there are too many people surrounding us and giving a lot of ideas,suggestions,comments, expectations,advice how does it all influence our consciousness.Spend time with yourself.Seek within all the more to the extent that your inner voice should echo from within not another person's words.

Don't be dragged by the outside, for that one  needs to go that much within.Dont always look for solutions to problems from outside.The best solution comes from within

Seek within and follow your heart thats the only way to peace wherever you are.

Solitude is not absence of people around. Solitude is connecting to self wherever you are. 

Integrating condition and consciousness

 What is spiritual condition?

In very simple terms spiritual condition is a temporary state which we travel into after individual meditation, group meditation or prayer from depths of our heart, solitude, introspection, reflection. We can also experience a good spiritual condition while reading scriptures with an attitude of devotion, visiting a place which is spiritually charged or even associating and spending time with a person who is in a good condition. Spiritual condition can be bestowed upon us by a guru out of mercy even if we are not deserving. In any way it’s up to us to retain it or let it grow and expand to the next higher condition instead of letting it drain away.

Where does spiritual condition lead us to?

Spiritual condition gives joy. Ultimately condition evolves  into consciousness and elevated consciousness should have an impact in the way we think and act, in our way of life, the way we deal with challenges, tests and day to day situations.

 Link between condition and consciousness:

They are two sides of a coin.They rise and fall together. A good condition paves way to a higher consciousness and when condition deteriorates , it slowly impacts our consciousness too.

Why regularity and prolonged continuity of practice is needed?

For our understanding we can assume that condition is like liquidity and consciousness is like asset. We work every day to earn money which is liquidity which can be compared to condition which is established by meditating or praying every day. After a certain time we convert liquidity into an asset, which can be compared to consciousness.

We need certain time period of regular day to day work to have enough liquidity which will convert into asset. Similar way we need some regularity in spiritual practice to experience a change in our consciousness.

Even after we have a asset we need minimum liquidity to retain the asset else the asset may drain away. We may also need enough continuous liquidity if we want to buy another asset. Likewise even if we experience a elevated consciousness(which is taken as synonym for asset for our understanding) we need to maintain our condition through regularity in practice only then our consciousness will not fade away and there will be possibility of further expansion of consciousness.

Role of Grace and blessings in material and spiritual life :-

In material life, not everyone builds wealth by their own efforts, some people inherit wealth from others.  Receiving from others could be a blessing( there is deservingness involved)or grace(there is no deservingness).

Similar way spiritual condition and consciousness can also be bestowed by guru either because of our good attitude or it can be a matter of grace.

If life puts you in a situation where you need to take care of others don’t think it as a burden, be assured you are improving your deservingness to be blessed.

In any way we enjoy a good condition, either through self efforts or through grace we need to be thankful for what we have and let it expand further and most importantly share it with all (both material and spiritual gifts) because the more you share the more you receive from this universe.

Love all whom He loves

“Love Him who loves all. Love all whom He loves.”

Love is complete only when we love God as well as all of God’s creations.

Only when we cross the lower vibrations such as desires, anger, greed or expectations and ego can we experience love. But it looks to me like our life’s journey is not just about dealing with our own desires, anger or ego but also about dealing with the vibrations of people around us.

We may do our best but someone around can expect more from us just because of their desires or greed. Whatever best we do they might not be satisfied or grateful and this could be demotivating for us. At times we could become victim of another person’s anger and ego. How do we handle all this, keep our cool and continue to love them?

It looks like there are some basic qualities to be imbibed and mastered which would make it easy to love anything and anyone who comes our way.

First and foremost is Tolerance. If we lack tolerance we couldn’t even think about the next step, it’s the bare minimal to go forward.

Second is Forgiveness. No one is perfect. Many a times we have been forgiven and given another chance. Learn to forgive people of their mistakes and give them an opportunity to change or improve.

Third is Empathy. Try to understand why the other person is behaving the way they are doing. Though their behavior may not be to our liking, that could be a very natural behavior from their perspective and circumstances.

The next important quality is Compassion. This quality helps us to do our part overcoming Judgement, which weighs us down.

The another most important attribute is prayer. When we can pray for the welfare of the other person and wish them well we have already taken a great leap in our consciousness.

The combination of tolerance, forgiveness, empathy, compassion and prayer is nothing but love.

Let us imbibe and practice these qualities and learn to love whoever or whatever comes our way. This is how we can transform a tough situation or person for our own evolution and expansion.

“Love Him who loves all. Love all whom He loves.”

Overcoming the heaviness of words

 “Words can make a person or break a person” . Words have so much power so we should make sure we should always use it for uplifting each other and not hurting each other.

At times someone can tell us something knowingly or unknowingly and it can deeply hurt us. We may counter react instantly which has its own consequences or carry it within us without expressing. If we are going on a picnic how many things would we carry with us physically? We would like to have only the minimum essentials.

We journey through life and carry things in our mind . So why make our own journey heavy carrying others words which cause heaviness in us. Shouldn’t we drop that down and make our own journey easier. Someone said something and it has affected us negatively may be we are carrying it since few days or weeks or months or years. This heaviness is something which we can choose to discard at this moment. May be the person who said could not have intended that at all, or may be they told something bad but has changed to a better person now. Why should we unnecessarily carry another person’s ignorance or arrogance in our mind?

Be very choosy about what you carry in your mind because you cannot give it to another porter by paying money. Keep the mind light. Keep only the words which will be of use to you in the journey of life. Keep only those words which will value add to you and give you positivity. Discard the rest and keep the mind light for a smooth journey.

In the same way we need to be very careful in what we say as we never know how it will impact the other person. We never know how many years they may carry it through with them. Always say only good things and motivate each other’s spirit. Let’s make our journey and others journey light.

Ego, subtle ego and moderation

What are the two great things a human has to overcome? - Illusion and Ego

 We generally think that a person who shouts at others, who keeps boasting of himself and disregards others views and feelings is a very egoistic person. But ego is such a vast thing that there are many things hidden within it. 

There is something called the “ subtle ego”. A person could be soft spoken and composed but yet could have a great degree of subtle ego. This subtle ego is like a dangerous weapon in beautiful package.

It manifests itself in so many ways such as shyness, intolerance, unable to mingle with conflicting personalities, doing something which we can’t afford or which is not necessary but we still do it just to maintain a social status.

We can stay away from threats to ego and choose peace in loneliness but one day or the other we need to confront situations which could come as a shock to our subtle ego which lies deep inside us even without our knowledge.

It’s tough to live happily with conflicting personalities, it’s easier to stay away from such people and stay at peace. But it’s important to stay at peace with whoever we are.Variety is the spice of life. Life is too short to hold onto grudges, anger and complaints.To live in peace with others we need to accept and understand that each human has their own view point, ideas and way of life and they could be right from their view point.

Drawing boundaries and maintaining self respect is a skill and an art. Accepting, adapting and adjusting is yet another skill.Trying to find a balance between self respect, peace on one side and compassion , acceptance of others on another side is such a high level state of moderation which is possible only after tackling both the ego and the subtle ego to a certain extent.

This moderation is possible only when we start becoming the observer or witness of our thoughts and feelings instead of associating our identity with them.

Moderation is the highest form of character .On this blessed day of Easter May God bless us with such a moderation and compassion towards ourselves and others.

Shiva and Shivam

Happy Maha Shivaratri. Sharing my thoughts about Lord Shiva from different perspectives(Religion, spirituality and reality)

From religious perspective Lord Shiva is a Hindu deity whose primary function is destruction.

From spiritual perspective shivam is pure love and shivam is a spiritual condition. After prolonged practice a spiritual aspirant can witness Shiva in meditation, dreams or even vision during waking time. No one can validate another person’s experience, only ones own heart and intuition can guide. Such things may seem exciting initially but still there is a long way to go.

From reality perspective, what really matters is the way we live every moment. Our thoughts, words and actions and the directions we take during every moment of choice. Even if we are fortunate enough to be blessed with great spiritual conditions by great gurus, spiritual conditions evaporate unless we live by that consciousness every moment. 

Shivam is pure love. So to remain in the condition/consciousness of love what are we supposed to do? How can we move towards shivam the pure love? What exists within us originally is love we are supposed to remove all the qualities which obstruct it. Only self introspection and listening to the inner voice can reveal us our qualities - thoughts, words and actions which are against love has to be monitored and corrected. All these barriers to love has to be destroyed. Wonder if that is why the deity Shiva is called the destroyer - The destroyer of all man made barriers to true love and take us to the state of pure love (Shivam).

May all our evil qualities and thoughts be destroyed and we move towards purity and love.

Believe in the process of life

I don’t know what kind of coincidence it is ,today two people told me they are depressed.Around 7pm in the evening a lady came home asking for any leads for part time cleaning. She had worked at my house for two weeks few months ago.She said she currently does not have a single house to work and is getting depressed and not interested to speak to anyone.I wished her well and said everything will be alright soon.

Around 9pm one of my old colleague and friend messaged me. We had lost touch and just exchanged our contact numbers a couple of days back. She sounded dull when I messaged her two days back. Today she messaged me herself and told that she was taking tablets for depression! I was feeling sad  about it,and thoughtful.

For each person there could be’N’ number of reasons to feel depressed.It’s ok to feel bad or low, part of life.  It’s not possible to be in high spirits all the time. But we need to understand feelings of depression is just a phase, not something eternal, though the person may feel they are in a dead lock situation. 

Our guru says”There is a solution to every situation even if it’s seemingly dramatic”-Babuji.

At times situations change by itself with passage of time or through another person’s help. We never know what the person around is going through , it’s our duty to follow kindness, appreciation,encouragement and motivation with others. Anyways we are obliged to help ourselves more than anyone else. 

Whatever we may be going through currently, let’s try to believe in God, believe in ourselves and believe in the process of life, believe in peaceful existence.What we believe is our reality.

A hymn to conclude:-

“ Peace is flowing like a river,

Flowing out of you and me

Flowing out into the desert,

Setting all the captives free”.

God ,Love,Infinity,Oneness

It is said that God is infinite, it may be because He exists in the form of infinite creatures.Love is also infinite because it is the energy which has aided in the process of creation of the infinite creatures.

 They say God is love and love is God.Love is such a subtle energy and it’s subtlety is it’s greatest deception.

From the human level most of the time attachment is misunderstood for love.Attachment is towards few but love once it emanates it’s for all without any restrictions.It’s not one to one or one to many, it’s one to infinite relationship.

Love is the subtle power which helps in the germination of a seed,the flowering of a plant, the growing of a tree.

The hatching of an egg, the flying of a bird.

The birth of a kid, the growth of a baby- the crawling, walking,running, speaking...

The subtle energy which keeps the sun,moon,stars and the planets intact at their respective place is love.

 Love is the energy that flows from creator to each and every creation and creature.There are infinite creatures and we are one among the infinite. But what is common among all? The source or the creator  is God and the energy involved in the process of creation  is love.From love we have come , so the path to go back to the source is also only one that is the path of love.

We find  oneness with other infinite fellow creatures through love.Respect one and another and treat everyone alike for we are all from the same source.Only when we learn to find oneness with all the other human beings ,we can learn to find oneness with all the other living creatures also.

Love and Marriage

 Mother’s love for her child is natural and effortless.But in marriage love is something which has to be built or discovered, with some rare exceptions of love at first sight.

Generally it’s believed that western system of education offers a practical approach to learning.Indian system of arranged  marriage is the biggest practical experience which life can offer!! 

It is a trial and error approach. You can make mistakes. In fact  most of us will, but what is important is we learn how to mend our mistakes. To be successful in a marriage relationship one has to learn new things from the other person,unlearn certain things which is no longer required, re learn certain things again and again which are so vital to keep the relationship going.

To learn, unlearn or relearn one has to be open and one has to be willing and make an attempt.Most importantly one has to be consistent.

Learn selflessness,Unlearn selfishness.

Learn adaptability ,Unlearn rigidity.

Learn to forgive,Unlearn holding on to past fights.

Learn appreciation, Unlearn criticism.

Learn gratitude,Unlearn complaints.

Learn to look at the good,Unlearn fault finding nature.

Learn when to hold on and when to move on.

Slowly with passage of time, God willing people get “used to “each other.This used to phase is called “acceptance”. This acceptance is actually the foundation of love.This is in fact a very minimal required to live at peace.

After the foundation of acceptance people can start working and helping each other in their goals/dreams or overcoming weakness or facing troubles or challenges that comes the way.When couple help each other both start succeeding gradually and they can help and inspire other people.

One has to then swim deeper and deeper to discover the pearl of love . This journey of discovering love is actually a process of self discovery.The joy of love is neither the beloved, nor the reciprocation, the joy of love is love itself, such is its unsurpassable beauty.

Love is infinite and discovering love is always a work in progress.

“The oak tree and cypress grow not in each other’s shadow”-The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.

In love, Freedom. Don’t just fall in love, raise in love. Emanate love to  everyone and everything you come across.Keep the vibration of love always flowing through you, never build barriers to it.

Be love, become love.

New year -Seek the highest

 As we say good bye to the previous year with an attitude of gratitude ,  it’s important to seek the highest in the new year. Actually every moment is an opportunity for a fresh start and new year can be used as a time to reflect and re align our priorities or else we would be in a maze without knowing the difference between reality, reflection and illusion.

Look at the flowers, they echo God’s love in infinite ways. Love is all that was, all that is and all that will be. Love is our nature, but most of the times we forget it and dwell in lower consciousness and vibrations running behind this and that. Awakening to love is the best thing that can happen in our life. Am not sure if it’s a matter of destiny or divine grace or any degree of personal effort is involved. But it’s said that what we seek is what we get, so why not seek the highest. Seek love, feel love, be love, become love.

Let’s hope we always vibrate in resonance with divine hymn and be filled with the highest vibration of love before the lower vibrations consumes us.

When there is love, everything else automatically follows.