Love and Marriage

 Mother’s love for her child is natural and effortless.But in marriage love is something which has to be built or discovered, with some rare exceptions of love at first sight.

Generally it’s believed that western system of education offers a practical approach to learning.Indian system of arranged  marriage is the biggest practical experience which life can offer!! 

It is a trial and error approach. You can make mistakes. In fact  most of us will, but what is important is we learn how to mend our mistakes. To be successful in a marriage relationship one has to learn new things from the other person,unlearn certain things which is no longer required, re learn certain things again and again which are so vital to keep the relationship going.

To learn, unlearn or relearn one has to be open and one has to be willing and make an attempt.Most importantly one has to be consistent.

Learn selflessness,Unlearn selfishness.

Learn adaptability ,Unlearn rigidity.

Learn to forgive,Unlearn holding on to past fights.

Learn appreciation, Unlearn criticism.

Learn gratitude,Unlearn complaints.

Learn to look at the good,Unlearn fault finding nature.

Learn when to hold on and when to move on.

Slowly with passage of time, God willing people get “used to “each other.This used to phase is called “acceptance”. This acceptance is actually the foundation of love.This is in fact a very minimal required to live at peace.

After the foundation of acceptance people can start working and helping each other in their goals/dreams or overcoming weakness or facing troubles or challenges that comes the way.When couple help each other both start succeeding gradually and they can help and inspire other people.

One has to then swim deeper and deeper to discover the pearl of love . This journey of discovering love is actually a process of self discovery.The joy of love is neither the beloved, nor the reciprocation, the joy of love is love itself, such is its unsurpassable beauty.

Love is infinite and discovering love is always a work in progress.

“The oak tree and cypress grow not in each other’s shadow”-The Prophet by Khalil Gibran.

In love, Freedom. Don’t just fall in love, raise in love. Emanate love to  everyone and everything you come across.Keep the vibration of love always flowing through you, never build barriers to it.

Be love, become love.