Turn offs are nothing but our own weekness inability to spontaneously handle something or someone. Some people don't turn us off because they have the character which does not interfere with our weekness. They make situations easy for us. While some others make situations difficult for us, but difficult never means impossible. We need to put some effort to handle them.Instead of blaming the people who turn us off, we should focus on how to handle them.The shift should be from "who" to "what". Shift from emotional memory to cognitive memory.
The immatured and selfish invade our boundaries and drain our energy.How to handle them ? By learning to set boundaries. By learning to express if we are forced to do what we dislike. Many people may not know what we dislike so we need to express ourselves.
The superiority complex people, jealous people and complaining people crush us with their negative words.How to handle them? By setting a filtre and not absorbing everything. Validate and take un only what is required.
Insensitive people hurt us. How to handle them ? Love and trust is a positive emotion. But don't have a emotional dependency on people. Each of us are totally complete by ourselves and should not have excessive emotional dependency on people though it's important to give and receive trust and love.
When we work on ourselves we can handle our anger/irritation without blaming it on others.
When something goes wrong after giving our 100 percent can break us or make us angry especially when the decision making authority is in someone else's hand. We should learn resilence and keep moving.Understand that anger only spoils our peace and makes things worse.
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